Troy the Boy

I just had to bring you this little comment from ‘Troy the Locator (Official)’ in response to a comment of mine on FB, he wrote: “Von Coates, thats correct. She should not have been taken from her adoptive parents and her biological mother, who were enjoying an open adotion. her bio-father, AS EVERYBODY NOW KNOWS, abandon his unborn child. You may believe that parents who abandon their children should be able to get them back after they have been settled into a new home, but we do not support that here. By the way, the U.S. Supreme Court agreed, the Oklahoma Supreme Court agreed as did the S.C. Supreme Court. So I guess its just you and a hand full of Cherokee Nation lawyers who think abandonment is good parenting.” Interesting. Of course you all know who the ‘she’ is here and the case being referred to. I think Troy has since found that it wasn’t just your Blogger and the lawyers who have a view on appropriate parenting and I hear that he is back peddling as fast as he can go. I hope it has been a learning experience for him and that he hasn’t wasted the opportunity. It might be too much to expect that he could change his mind and support parenting by biological parents and the rights of children!
Learning experiences! The new laptop was purchased on Friday. What a relief. The old dinosaur is to be pensioned off and just used for audio books elsewhere. This whizzbang new Toshiba is just the job and keeping your Blogger busy setting up, settling down and marvelling at the speeding fingers. Life will be so much easier and more effortless from now on.
Labour Day holiday has dawned a beautiful sunny day and is so pleasant it is almost impossible to do anything but admire it. The goslings now number 13 – three big ones, a singleton and two sets of six and five who run together as a small flock. This last set are cared for by six adult geese – the two mothers who are best friends and always nest together, two ganders and two aunties who help out. Goose life is intricate, full of rules, boundaries and routines. It is beautiful to watch, to learn from and to understand. I took time out this morning to sit in the sun, to watch and enjoy the flock as it went about it’s business of the season – raising the goslings.
Maybe all parents-to-be should spent time watching a flock of geese, they would learn so much. It might look like this –
*talk to them even before they come out into the world and keep talking to them, explaining but not asking them questions they don’t know the answers to
* set realistic boundaries and enforce them by firm but fair reminders
*be gentle, encourage and guide by example
*have routines and stick to them
*show them how to feed and water themselves as early as possible
*let them have growing responsibility as they grow
*don’t hover, allow them to take some risks and learn how to manage risk
*shout for help if you really can’t manage!