Jeremy Rifkin: The empathic civilization | Video on TED.com.

It is well worth checking this link if you can for a fun video by Jeremy.
Watch out for around the 2.54 point about babies. Like me you might find it triggering – even cartoon babies in cots lined up, trigger me still. The thought that babies are empathetic and trigger each other in a group situation is not news to me, I can still feel it at gut level, just by watching this excellent video. It is around seventy years since I had the experience of being in a nursery of babies being kept apart from their mothers. That experience is part of who I am. It’s not me. It doesn’t define me, but it is part of my history and a part I am now able to acknowledge, accept and deal with. Dealing with it means not hiding from it, not trying to escape it, burying it or pretending it didn’t happen. It means fronting up to every occasion when I’m triggered. It means examining it carefully, trying to understand what is happening and getting the most meaning from it. Then dealing with the feelings, however hard, ugly and painful they are and however much they hurt us or upset others or are hard for others to acknowledge or look at.
Everyone has pain, hurt and loss to deal with in life. That is part of the human condition. It is also part of the human condition to survive. We adoptees have our own particular hurts, losses and pain, our own PTSD and type of suffering to live with, or for some adoptees to not live with because it becomes not bearable, too much to endure and death is preferable. Perhaps we all have those days or times but most of us pull through because we have support, we have family who hold us back from the brink of annihilation or people we cannot bear to leave behind hurting. The moment we think of others we are saved. Not all of us are that easily saved and we mourn the loss of the many who didn’t make it through the trauma of adoption. We mourn the loss of those innocents who never got to know whether they could be survivors, because they were doomed from the start, by the choice adults made about other adults they deemed to be good enough to be adoptive parents, the cynical would say ‘rich enough’ or privileged enough! Perhaps that is a very realistic view and very near the truth! We mourn too the loss of those to adoption who should never have been adopted because they already had parents – those who were stolen, kidnapped, trafficked, sold or let down by the law and adults who had no sense of moral justice.


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