If……….

So tell me, if adoption is so wonderful and beautiful –

• Why don’t adoptees have equal rights?
• Why so much adopter angst and justification?
• Why do we cost so much?
• Why do people fight over us?
• Why do open adoptions close?
• Why can’t we know our full stories like everyone else does?
• Why do we need the UN to focus on us specifically?
• Why are we marketed?
• Why do adopters go to jail for abusing and killing us?
• Why do attorneys and others go to jail over it?
• Why do we still suffer stigma, racism and adoptism?
• Why is there so much argument over us, about us and with us?
• Why has consensus not been reached?
• Why aren’t all mothers happy, content and pleased about the future they gave us/are giving us?
• Why in Australia will the Federal and all State Governments be apologising for adoption?
• Why do organisations exist to research, oppose and educate about adoption?
• Why are so many books written, films made and blogs written about adoption by adoptees?
• Why are so many making money from something others see as ‘a gift’?
• Why does adoption involve lies, scams, deception, illusion, omissions and secrets?
• Why does adoption break-down and adoptees are returned, sent back or re-homed?
• Why are the figures for domestic and transnational adoption falling steadily?
• Why are adoption agencies going out of business or being prosecuted?
• Why do professionals describe such things as ‘the mask of adoption’, ‘adoption syndrome’ and so on?
• Why do research figures show such a high rate of psychological difficulties for adoptees? A recent adoptee conducted survey indicated nearly 90% of adoptees at some time suffer anxiety and depression!
• Why the continuous hard-sell?
• Why specialist therapies, interventions and practitioners?
• Why so many non-adoptees unable to cope with the views of adult adoptees on adoption?
• Why so many myths, lies and deceptions about adoption?
• Why is so much money needed, so many bribes and sweeteners?
• Why are so few adoptees pandering to the market with books, training etc ?

A couple of interesting links packed with information and differing views on adoption’s beauty, relevance and integrity in case you haven’t seen them –

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