Here are a few quotes taken from blogs and Face Book . They speak for themselves, which is just as well because it’s hard to know where to start with them! I’ll leave them here for your perusal and comment if you wish.
When they ” eventually discover that social workers, lawyers, clergy, and adoptive parents acting in collaboration to conceal their real identity and the names of their parents have lied to them, and the government even refuses to acknowledge their frustration, they become increasingly incensed and bad tempered about what happened to them.” Judith is an adoptee and found at https://judithland.wordpress.com/2016/06/14/adoption-a-thousand-reasons-to-be-angry
Cameron Horn – ” I find the main problem with the difference of opinion between adoptees and dispossessed parents on the effects of adoption is this: they don’t actively, front-of-brain remember their removal – we do. We know what the separation meant and continues to mean within us, in a much more conscious, visceral way. Adopted people, with no memory of the violence and disassociation thrust upon them, cannot as clearly discern adoption’s affect. Also – adopted people have a vested interest in maintaining the belief that adoption has not harmed them or in fact, have a vested interest in promoting the myth that adoption was beneficial to them. That vested interest is in maintaining their role in their adoptive family as the healer of their adopters’ wounds. So, without a memory of their removal, and with a strong survival interest in downgrading the negative effects of their removal, they inevitably side with the adoption promoters, believing adoption is either beneficial or at worst, neutral” Cameron is a father-of-loss and a supporter of Origins.
Lesley Pearse – “Murray Legro Did you not understand that MOTHERS have given the right to their abducted sons and daughters to speak.” Lesley is a mother-of-loss. Murray is an adoptee and LDA.
Brenda Coughlan -“ If adopted persons stood by their natural mothers justice and accountability would be achieved – but whilst adopted persons allow academic points of view continue to divide families – we will soon see only the voices of adopted persons being heard and mothers consent for future adoptions disposed with – reading through academic documents written in 1960’s nothing has changed nor the attitude of many adopted persons – it all being about them and not the experience mother and child enjoyed – the bond formed but severed by those who thought better – history is about to repeat itself – so where are the adopted persons voices to history repeating itself? Play it again sam”
Have a happy and peaceful weekend. When we live in such a crazy world, our time out and time off become even more vital and precious. Recharging our batteries, being with those we love, in places we love, are essential for our well-being. May you have all you need ❤