For those of you suffering or aware of someone who is suffering from complicated or complex grief or ambiguous loss, you might find these links and suggestions useful. As you can see I’m a great fan of Pauline Boss and her work in this area. There are however others doing useful work in this area and a search will help you discover what suits you and what will be useful. Many find Family Constellations work to be helpful and it’s connecting of present generations with ancestors. For those of you who are adoptees, Bert Hellinger, the great developer of this work, addresses adoption and the difficulties of adoptees specifically.
“Family Constellations: A Practical Guide to Uncovering the Origins of Family Conflict” Kindle Edition
In dealing with loss and grief, whether our own or that of others, it is vital to remember to proceed with respect for difference, acknowledgement of cultural practices, and to treat ourselves and others with gentleness, kindness and compassion. Try not to make assumptions or judgements, to listen well and to remember what others confide in us and do us the honour of sharing. It is a great privilege to be trusted and to be mindful of the confidences of others. Never share those confidences with others or make them the subject of gossip, the fastest way to destroy trust. We humans have many things in common which go across generations, cultures and country – suffering is one we all share, regardless of when and where we were born and raised. Perhaps when we all remember that our world may come to it’s senses. ❤