Everything that goes around comes around. How often have you heard or read that piece of wisdom? In my life, my first discovery of all things therapeutic happened way back in the ’60’s and ’70’s, I read, I talked, I agonised, I hurt, I learned, I was ‘theraped’ by a talented, gentle therapist who called himself a Reichian, because he had been trained by Reich himself (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilhelm_Reich). ‘The hot seat’ was a joke between friends, but Fritz Perl’s work as a therapist was indisputably and unquestionably respected, quoted, enjoyed and sometimes revered. We thought nothing then of his chain smoking in sessions! What that meant or how it might be interpreted! He was a giant, a leader, a teacher and his work stands today. Along with all the other pioneers, leaders and visionaries who opened the way for new thought, new techniques and new life.
To mature means to take responsibility for your life, to be on your own. Psychoanalysis fosters the infantile state by considering that the past is responsible for the illness.
My Daughter is on her own journey of discovery and lent me Radical Honesty – How to Transform Your Life By Telling the Truth by Brad Blanton. I began, and realised the author was a student of Fritz Perl’s and based his own work on Gestalt Therapy and had been taught hypnosis by Abraham Maslow. Half way into the book and grateful for the reminder, I remembered I’d been practising radical honesty for 40 years and the learning never finishes! I am now reading his book on parenting and his conversation with ‘The God Man’ Neale Donald Walsch (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neale_Donald_Walsch. It is a precious gift to have an adult Daughter to share with, to discuss with and to be able to use the acquired information to reflect on our own relationship. We have reached a new place, who knows where it will lead us, but is feels adventurous, exciting and productive. We are looking at what it means to be the offspring of an adoptee and that will be a fruitful, long running area for investigation. What we know so far is that it brings a sense of aloneness, difference and responsibility, a wish not to add to the hurt already experience and is a burden no child should have to bear.
Brad Blanton says – Most of us never make it beyond adolescent hope and hype and disappointment. Wishing is a way to remove oneself from what is going on now. Hope springs eternal. Fuck hope. Hope is how most of us avoid growing up.
The power of positive thinking is the biggest load of bullshit of our day. Positive thinking is for negative people. With positive thinking and affirmations, we start from an image of ourselves as flawed, and try to use thinking as a strategy to make ourselves whole. Thinking is not the source of power. Being is the source of power. And in being, we are already whole.
So there you go folks, if you haven’t read Brad Blanton, he’s available somewhere near you by post directly from him, or on Amazon and is definitely worth the time and investment. Who knows it might change your life!