“And for the ultimate codeswitch, when we read that a piece of legislation is in keeping with the core American belief that families are the best protection for children, this really means, regardless of global cultural considerations, which include the impact of poverty, gender and social class bias, diverse social norms, as well as a country’s sovereignty, Americans still know what is best. Thus, it is only in an American family that a child can truly flourish.” When viewed from outside this couldn’t be more true! And isn’t adoption about providing a child with a family not about ‘family building’?
Code-switching – the practice of shifting the languages you use or the way you express yourself in your conversations. www.npr.org/blogs/codeswitch
Anyone who enters the adoption community or has gone through the adoption process quickly learns that our constellation has words all unto ourselves. To hear an adoptee talk about her mother, we automatically know she is talking about her adoptive mother, no distinction needs to be made among us. What’s interesting is that those who go through the adoption process are taught that a birthmother made an “adoption plan” while we adoptees say, “when she gave me up for adoption.” We learned that adoptive parents don’t like using the word “abandoned” so they are encouraged to tell their child, “you were put in a place to be found.” We, adoptees know, we were abandoned and if not abandoned, we opt for alternate words to describe the severing of our connection…
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