Walking in Circles

what a shrink thinks

“Stories move in circles. They don’t go in straight lines. There are stories inside stories and stories between stories, and finding your way through them is as easy and as hard as finding your way home. And part of the finding is getting lost. And when you’re lost, you start to look around and to listen” – from Writing For Your Life by Deena Metzner

I’ve spent my whole life wandering in circles.

The alarm clock rang three days during each school week at 5 am. Early enough for my mother to dress my half sleeping self in tights and skating clothes and get me to the ice rink before elementary school.

In the olden days of my youth, competitive figure skaters actually skated figures. We studied over 70 variations, increasing in complexity, of figure eights, with loops, half-turns, full turns, forward and backward, inside edges and outside edges, in…

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  1. Reblogged this on The Life Of Von and commented:

    Very interesting post here from The Shrink, the first part probably recognisable to many adoptees.
    Personally I’ve always believed life moves in a spiral rather than in circles, just my experience because I never quite pass the same way again. The territory looks familiar but we are different. We have moved on, learned new things, become different people since the last time we passed this way if we are adoptees. For instance we may have acquire new knowledge about our adoption, experienced reunion, finish with reunion or maybe we’re at the beginning, clutching that first vital clue and wondering the best way to proceed.
    All roads lead to somewhere – new experiences, new knowledge, resolution, acceptance and sometimes completion or what some still like to call ‘closure’. It is a misnomer for adoptees. We never finish our adopted life and never stop learning new things about adoption, ourselves and how adoption affects us, our lives and families.That doesn’t mean we have to remain victims of adoption but it does mean we have to put in the effort and have the commitment to change, to thriving despite our experiences of loss and trauma and of making the very best of the hand we’ve been dealt. We owe it to ourselves because as the advert says “we’re worth it”!

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